CC: Why Are Bad Habits Hard To Break?

Now there's a good question that has got me really thinking hard. Why, indeed are bad habits hard to break? I do believe that it all depends on the individual's resolve to break such a bad habit. If you are really serious in changing that something that is not helpful and healthy in your relationship, then you would by all means rid it out of your system, by hook or by crook.

One of my bad habits is spending too much time in front of the computer and not really getting anything serious done. That's because there are lots of distractions. Facebook is one of them. So if I really have deadlines to meet, I do not open my Facebook account until I am done with my online tasks. And if I want to do something other than doing my online tasks, I try to keep away from the "office room".

Bad habits are hard to break because we do not look at them as bad in the first place. We always tend to find an excuse, petty excuses at that,  for doing them, like the reason "I just want to relax for a while so I want to connect with my friends online" or "It's just a treat for myself." Sometimes though, we forget the essentials like quality time, communicating in the real sense of the word, and prioritizing.  If we learn how to prioritize and know what's really important to us, then breaking bad habits won't be as hard as we thought it would be.

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CC: Our Old Bad Habits

It has been a while since I last joined Couple's Corner. Since I am still on vacation, I might as well make good use of my free by updating my blogs. I have been neglecting this one for some time now and have also been missing months posting for this lovely meme, Couple's Corner. Since it is also the New Year, I would like to do things right by regularly joining the memes hosted by my Marces and also updating my blogs on a regular basis (fingers crossed!)"

The Year 2010 is definitely over and as I still enjoy the first few days of the year  2011 in blissful rest and spending it with the family, I am also given the chance to look back to the year that was, thanks to this Wednesday's theme: Our Old Bad Habits. Indeed, it is the good old "bad" habits that are hard to break and me and Hubby have some of those that I hope will be corrected and turned into a strength.

You all know me as the OC type and one of my bad habits is that when I want something done, I want them done PRONTO! This has been a source of little LQs and I hope I could be more patient this year. I also have this tendency to forget what I am actually supposed to do and so I end up starting lots of things but never managing to finish even a single one. This leads to Hubby not finding his socks at the closet and his shirts still all crumpled. In other words, I am easily distracted and this is the reason why I am oftentimes late. While I take pride in myself for not being an impulsive buyer anymore, I still find it hard to say NO if my Hubby wants to buy something for the house. So we end up broke in the process.

What of my Hubby? I don't know if I should be publishing this but let't just say he is like any other husband who loves to leave things where they please, especially on top of the kitchen sink. He also has this tendency to not stop researching for something online, comparing prices and product features until he can reach a decision and he could not sleep for some days unless he has already bought it. He likes the house clean but he doesn't like to see me all busy cleaning the house when he is around. Which leaves me with the question, "how am I supposed to clean on days when he is not around especially now that I also have classes?" 

Oh well, I hope we could both work something out. After all, it will always be the two of us until the day Our Heavenly Father will take us away from this world.

Here's hoping that no matter what the differences we wives and our hubbies have, we will remain strong in love and will always try to work things out. Wishing everyone a very happy, healthy, peaceful, and prosperous New Year!

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CC: I Will Do It Tomorrow

This week on Couple's Corner, Marce Liz asks: Did your spouse ever tell you that he will do it tomorrow, and yet it was left undone? I would definitely answer YES!

I have always been a patient person, or so I thought. Never had I imagined that I would be otherwise until I asked my husband to do something for me. He would just say OKAY and with that answer, I would of course expect that he would "obey" me and do it right away. But no... he wouldn't do it right away and I end up doing what I asked him to do because I can't wait for his "later" or "soon". He always tells me that I am very impatient. I always expect him to do the things I ask of him right away especially if it's house chores. I don't want things left undone before the day ends. I mean, if you can do it right away, why wait for later, right?

I guess the same goes for me. I am also guilty of saying Okay but never really getting around to doing things and sometimes, even forgetting them. I guess being the OC-type, you would expect me to be impatient if things don't get done the way I expect and want them too. And that drives my husband crazy. But he knows me too well that he just lets me be. An argument will only ruin our day and that is what we try to avoid, knowing that there's only the two of us that we can count on. Come to think of it, it has always been my husband who has always been patient with my crazy way of doing things. My, I am such a lucky wife!

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CC: What We Want From Each Other

My Hubby and I go way, way back. We have known each other for twelve years now so that we think that we know each other pretty well. But obviously, since we got married and lived together, surprises were always a possibility.

It is not easy to live together with someone especially if you have been living all by yourself for quite some time so that it could go either way: it could be that the they would embrace the fact that they are now finally together and can do things better together OR they would feel crowded and wish there were more space. It's the first case for us, luckily.

So, what do I want from my husband? I want... That he would always give us the feeling of security that he will always stand by us no matter what the circumstance. That he would continue to spend quality time with our little girl and have a close relationship with her. That he would also be sensitive of my needs because I too after all, am human and could also get tired and also needs care. That he would continue to be a loving and responsible husband and father and never tire supporting us. That he will continue to be honest with his feelings and say what he needs to say. That he would remain patient with me, especially if I can't speak my mind out. That he would know and be reassured of the fact that he has us, the two people in the world who loves him and thinks of him as someone who matters the most to us.

I haven't really asked my husband about what he want from me. But I think I can say that he wants me to continue to be strong for our family. To be my old self, the person who has always been patient and understanding. He wants me to initiate moves when it comes to certain family matters. He wants me to lose some weight so that he could carry me again. :D I know he wants to eat breakfast with me before he leaves for work. I also know that he wants the house in order when he comes home but he doesn't want to see me cleaning when he is around. He wants us to have another child now but he also knows that we couldn't have one just yet. He wants me to grow old with him and I want him to grow old with me.

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Is Sorry Enough?

As individuals, we are not perfect. When we married the one person that we love, we knew that life wouldn't be perfect either... but happy nonetheless. Disagreements, arguments and misunderstandings will always be a part of human relationships and married couples are not exempted from that reality.

Hubby and me, watching the paragliders in Scwarzwald (Black Forest).

We all make mistakes. As they say, "to err is human, to forgive is divine." I am a stubborn person, but not stubborn enough to not admit I was wrong or made a mistake. I say "I'm sorry" and ask for forgiveness when it is due, especially where Hubby is concerned. When there are arguments and misunderstanding between the two of us, I usually keep quiet and if I know that I am at fault, I would say sorry and would try to explain myself. But because I am so bad at explaining, I always end up crying! Toinks! 

Hubby and I always feel bad whenever we quarrel or when someone does something wrong so that we try to talk it out. I get scared when he begins raising his voice so that I would just hug him and say Sorry too, for my part in the argument. Once the heat of the argument is past, we would then talk about it in a calm manner. That is the case, most of the time. When we talk about it again, it allows us to better understand the situation and one another. And we try to not make the same mistake again to save us the heartaches afterward.

We try to not let pride get in the way of our relationship. Because we know that it will destroy everything that we have worked and hoped for.

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CC: Like It Or Not

I just realized that I have always been referring to my husband as Hubby in my CC posts. I am just not used to using his first name when referring to him online so I hope you understand the anonymity. Hehe! But in case you are all wondering, his name is Vincent.

Anyway, here I am again, a little too late for my CC entry. Marce Liz would have to kick me, hard this time, so that I would my entry on time. Lol!

No couple  is perfect. Our flaws and mistakes and our inequities are what make life more meaningful and exciting because they allow us to learn and grow from them. I have known my Hubby for almost 12 years now but we were only married for 3 years. Knowing him that long, I thought I already know him. I also thought that I know myself too well. Not until we started really living together as husband and wife did I realize our similarities and differences.

LIKES

Hubby likes his coffee black while I like mine with a cube of sugar and fresh milk.

Hubby like to leave his clothes wherever but being the "neat freak that I am, I like to pick up after him.

Hubby likes to eat food that he is familiar with... I tend to be more adventurous and try new dishes.

When we eat outside, I sometimes like to order what he is having.

We both like movies and we watch at least one movie per week.

He likes to lie down on the couch while watching TV. I like to sit on the bean bag.

We both like to spend our free time going on road trips.

We both like ice cream and Japanese food.

When there's more than two viands on the table, I like to place small portions on my plate and eat them in a mixed manner. Hubby likes to eat one portion at a time. You will never see him "mixing" unless it is a big gathering.

Hubby likes sneakers and Timberland shoes. He likes his feet comfy because he drives a lot. I on the other love flats shoes.

When shopping for lingerie, Hubby likes to wait outside the shop or go somewhere else. He'll just come back when it's time to pay. :D

He likes his sawsawan spicy. I like mine plain although I sometimes dip in his.

Hubby likes to keep himself informed with current events in the Philippines, I obviously like to just blog. Lol!

I like to ask questions, Hubby prefers that I don't ask too much because he doesn't have all the answers.

We both like to help others in need, whenever we can.

We both like the same kind of music.

DISLIKES

Hubby doesn't like it when I try new dishes. He would say it's "french-french". I don't like it when says that because I get hurt.

We both don't like it when we raise our voices to each other. But of course, who does?

He doesn't like me making faces, I don't like if he accuses me of making one.

He doesn't like it when I am too silent in the car. I don't like when he starts being paranoid again.

He doesn't like it if I nag, I don't like it if I begin nagging too. And I would just stop.

Hubby doesn't like it when I ask him questions while we are watching something. I don't like it if he just ignores most of them.

Hubby doesn't like me makulit. I don't like Hubby being too demanding.

We both dislike to argue because when we do, I always end up crying. And Hubby doesn't like to see me crying.

We both dislike going to discos. We dislike smoking either.

We also don't like pretentious people that's why we are cautious who we get close to. No, we don't judge people but it is better to be careful than to be sorry. 

There are lots more but as Marce Liz said, this post would be too long if I go on and on. So now you know me and Hubby and better. What's your likes and dislikes?

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CC: Opposites Attract

I learned that "opposites attract" when I was learning my Chemistry. It's an undeniable fact. While it is purely science, it is also applicable to relationships. While Hubby and I share similar values and beliefs, we also have our differences. We try to work our differences out and compliment them with our strengths. We would drive each other crazy with our differences but at the end of the day, what matters most is that we came to understand and respect each other better.

Hubby has the tendency to just leave things wherever he pleases, I hate clutter and clean up after him. Hubby likes to talk and I like to just keep silent and listen. I like to window shop, he dreads it especially when I stop at the lingerie section. I love to experiment with food, he likes his food simply cooked the Filipino way. He loves Formula 1, I love Korean Dramas. Although I am the more sociable one, he also gets along well with people. I do not know how to play the guitar but I am the one who helps him with the rhythm when we practice songs for church. He is fair skinned, I am dark, like milk and chocolate. He is updated on the current events in the Philippines while I am more confined to blogging and my online tasks. There are countless other differences but looking at my list here, I am glad that they are not really major ones. And that we try to adjust and make compromises to avoid quarrels and misunderstandings.

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CC: Hobbies

This week's theme for Couple's Corner is all about HOBBIES.

I will start off with the things that we both love: traveling & watching movies. We both are wanderlusts and when we got married, we vowed that we will visit at least one place that we have never been to in a year. But that once a year turned to almost four times a year, which I admit has taken a big chunk on our savings. Another passion we both share is watching movies. We love to watch romantic comedies, sci-fi, fantasy adventure, drama, family-related movies... well, almost all genres. Hehe! We subscribed to a monthly DVD rental and wait for the DVD to arrive by post. We also purchase DVDs from time to time, if we really love the movie.

Individually, we also have our own hobbies. Hubby is into classical guitar and go karting. Although playing the guitar per se is an inexpensive hobby, his classical guitar is not! Hehe! But we bought it as a birthday gift this year so that we have a reason to purchase it. I think it cost €899 for the guitar alone, a little too expensive as a gift but worth it nonetheless because Hubby practices everyday and plays me great music like Canon in D, Marriage D'Amor, Spanish Romance, Wonderful Tonight, Tears in Heaven among others.

I on the other hand am into digital scrapbooking, reading books and blogging. I haven't done much digital scrapbooking and reading lately because most of my time is devoted to blogging. Perhaps it is no longer a hobby... this blogging thing. It is for a living. I do have a number of digital scrapbooking projects cooked up like finishing my little girl's photobook and putting together into yearbooks the three-years+ photos that we have accumulated since we became a family. I also have a number of book titles that I have been planning to purchase but just never got around to doing yet. While I know how to do needlecrafts, I did not dare get my hands on a project because I know that it will take eons before I finish them. Lol!

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CC: When We Were Sick

I can say without any hesitation that I am as healthy as a horse because I am not a sickly person. And even if I am sick, I cannot afford to show weakness or be seen in bed unless I am totally ill because I have a little one who is dependent on me and a husband who does not need to go through more stress when he comes home from work. Even now that I have a toothache that seems to go on forever, I cannot afford to have a break. It is my personal choice. I am calling the dentist in 30 minutes to see if they can squeeze me in for a quick check up otherwise, I will have to tend to myself. But that doesn't mean that hubby doesn't take care of me. He does, when he really sees that I cannot bear the pain anymore. He would willingly look after our little girl and let me rest while he prepares food. After all, there's only the three of us here.

My hubby is asthmatic but we never really had problems with attacks when we were still in Japan. It came back full blast though when we moved here in Germany, especially in the winter season. When he is sick, I had to be strong for him. I don't know how it feels like when you have asthma but hearing his wheezing gives me goosebumps. We had to store up on his medication so that he could get fast relief when the attacks come. Although he could be a baby at times, he keeps to himself until he couldn't bear it any longer and asks for my help. I do take care of him and see to it that he is comfortable,and allow him ample time to rest.

It is very difficult to get sick when you have no one to turn to but yourselves so that it is important for us that we live a healthy lifestyle. I guess our only vice is not getting enough sleep because we watch movies or tv series until the wee hours of the morning. Our daily prayer - that we always be blessed with good health so that we can live our lives normally. And I am thankful because the Lord kept us away from sickness.

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